Friday, June 3, 2011

Momma Bird

Being a Mommy is the most important part of my life and the only thing I'm naturally good at.

As my babies began leaving the nest, I began falling apart.  I started feeling sad and empty for the way my life had been when I was their entire world.

Soon our youngest will be ready to fly off too.  Am I ready?  NO! 

My soul has never been more at peace then when Gman and both my birdies were safe at home, together in our sweet little nest.  I don't think I will ever feel that wonderful fullness in my heart again.
To keep from being dragged off to the looney bin, I started making a list.  A list of things to focus on when my nest is empty.  I'm hoping by focusing on something new I won't be swallowed up by my heartbreak.

So, for now, my Empty Nest List includes the following:
  • Learn to sew
  • Learn to garden
  • Read more books
  • Crochet more
  • Follow more Green ideas
  • Keep trying to get healthy and lose weight
  • Scan and organize my ton of pictures
  • Start a compost
  • Sort through important paperwork
  • Continue to blog about it all
Will it fill up my heart?  No.  But I hope it will keep me busy.... and away from that padded room.

15 Friends Commented:

Katrina said...

That is a great list! And a great idea (making a list) that I think I'm going to have to do myself, one of these days. Right now I am so thankful that all of my children are still living under my roof. Although the oldest just turned 20, he is going to college locally and living at home to save money. Next up is the 18 year old, who still has another year in high school, and she plans on doing the same thing that her brother is doing, so she will be living at home for a while yet. Then there is the 16 year old, and I think SHE will be the first to leave the nest. She has always had her mind set on going to college straight out of high school, and she wants to live on campus and join a sorority. So in my mind I'm already thinking that I only have 2 years left for her to be living at home, and my heart hurts a bit about that. The other six are younger and I have a ways to go with them before they leave the nest. So right now, this very second as I type this, I have all nine of my babies sleeping in their rooms, in our family home :) My youngest is two years old, so I have a ways to go before I hit the empty nest. And I can't help but to think that when my two year old is up and out of the house, one of my kids will be moving back in for whatever reason. (I moved back in with my mom, along with my husband and three children, for two years while we were saving to buy a home) And I will probably have lots of grandchildren by that time, too. Hopefully my nest will never really be empty :)

I saw your link on the Thursday blog hop, and I'm a new follower of your blog. Have a wonderful day!

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More Milestones said...

@ Katrina, thanks for the support.

@ April, I've been wanting a new blog design. I'll keep you in mind.

I'll be stopping by your blogs.

Jessica said...

I laughed at your even the dog is male comment. I say that all the time. I love that you are sharing about this phase of life with honesty and humor. Those of us with young ones will have your words of wisdom to read as the time for more milestones comes for us. Love the title

Following along

More Milestones said...

Thanks Jessica. I guess you either gotta laugh or cry... I'd rather laugh... or at least smile.
: )

Pamela said...

I can so empathize with you. My youngest graduated a few weeks ago. And now I'm going to make a list. Thank you for the suggestion. I trust your empty nest days find you renewed and and refocused. I'm wishing that for myself, too. :-)

New GFC follower from Say Hi Sunday. said...

Hiii! I am your newest follower from the blog hop! I'd love a follow back. I'm going to check out the blog hop you've organized now. Very cool ;) take care! xoxo!

More Milestones said...

Thakns Ladies!
I'll be stopping by your blogs.

: )

Terri said...

I sent you an email and left a reply on my site for you. Hope you are having a great weekend.

More Milestones said...

Thanks Terri! It's much appreciated.

: )

Finger Click Saver said... follower from Saturday Suggestions. In reading your post on your empty nest...this has been on my mind for some time now even though my daughter is only 13. I just know how fast time goes by, and how pretty soon, she'll be driving and off wanting to do things w/friends rather than mom. I have a 27 yr.old too...but he won't be leaving home as he has multiple handicaps and I won't place him. That being said, my life almost was turned upside down in March when he was intubated for post viral pneumonia. The thought of losing him was more than I could handle. If by chance you take up sewing...may I suggest to you to make a quilt for each one of your kids? Something simple would do. I have saved clothing of my daughters for years now and will be cutting it all up to make a quilt out of it for her. I see you are into could use pics in your quilt w/transfer paper and make a nice block quilt. And, should you ever get to sorting important paperwork, I would love for you to come do mine! Have a great week! Just think...grand babies will be on their way hopefully, and you'll have your heart filled w/joy.

More Milestones said...

Thanks so much. I really wouldn't mind being a grandmother soon... but my 16 & 19 year olds don't plan on being daddies any time soon. : ) Can't blame them huh.
I guess I'll have to wait a little.
~ Mona : )

Beth Zimmerman said...

That was a great list to add to the blog hop! Thank you!

I may have mentioned this before but I am facing a similar struggle as until last week we had a grandchild living with us (she's with her dad at least until August), and my youngest is about to fly the nest in a big way as he leaves July 19th for a mission trip (5 months) in Nepal!

More Milestones said...

@ Beth, I can't imagine my baby (because they'll always be our babies) moving away so far.
Hang in there. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
: )

Prairiemaid said...


Love your list! I wanta stay out of that padded room, too.;)

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