Thursday, December 22, 2011

While in elementary school, a teacher read us this book. It really didn’t mean much to me at the time. I really only remember the pictures.

Years later I would read this book to my boys. I’m sure it didn’t mean much to them either.

As they went on and on asking for this or that, I would remind them of the book and how I am now only a stump and need time to recoup. They would roll their eyes and say ok and leave it at that… for awhile.

Sometimes I would tell them I was now only roots so please give me time to grow… eyes rolling again.

I caught this on YouTube and it made me remember those times…. And you know what? I’m still only a stump….but I don’t mind.

It seems I mostly hear from M when he needs my apples, leaves and all that I am.

Maybe that’s the way it’s supposed to be. Maybe that’s the way it’s always been between moms and their children. 

Although C still lives at home, I hope one day they will call or come over just to hang out, chat and laugh it up. I really miss those times when we were all together.

The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein


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Wednesday, November 2, 2011

 
Mom,

Things weren’t always awful. I do admire you for many things.

We grew up poor. Didn’t have two nickels to rub together. We were always clean. Our hair washed and brushed. Although we never had name brand cloths, they were always clean. Our shoes were always clean. Our teeth brushed. We always had coats, hats and gloves.

You kept our home clean. It was more than clean. I dare anyone to find a dust bunny, cobweb or dirty dish in the sink.

Garage sales were your thing. You have a knack for finding the diamonds in crap. You’d bring stuff home, dust it off, paint it, sew it up and we’d have something cool, clean and new. I admire that talent.

Dinner was always cooking when we walked in the door after school. You have a talent for making something out of nothing even with food. I don’t remember ever feeling hungry, although I’m sure there were plenty of times we didn’t have enough.

Thank you for keeping us clothed, clean and healthy.  None of us are law breakers.  All of us have jobs.  All of us have grown up happy and healthy.  All of us have been blessed.  Thank you. 

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Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Dear Mom,

I
t feels weird to me to say “Mom”. It’s been so long since I’ve said “Mom”.

I was angry for a long time. Angry that you didn’t put us first in your life. It was always your own wants, your own needs, your abusive husband, your need to drink and act a fool with your sister.

I’m so sick of the excuse that you were a young mom. Here’s a newsflash for you, I was the same age as you when I had my first child. I was even younger than you when I had my second.

I put my boys first. Drinking, parting a thing of the past. As they grew older I grew more aware of your selfishness. I couldn’t understand how you could send me to a molester’s home to pay his mother for babysitting us. This AFTER I told you he was creepy the night before.

Packing my room up when I had just turned 18 and still had a full year of high school left. I didn’t think it was such a big deal at the time – you have a way of spinning things and making people believe the way you want them to. As my own son started his senior year of high school, I couldn’t imagine doing the same to him.

You weren’t good for my children. You never took care of them without being paid. When you did take care of them you would let them see inappropriate movies. (Much like when you let me see Saturday Night Fever when I was 9) You didn’t even come to see them play sports. You would give one of my children birthday cards but not the other.

The final straw was you coming over trashed at 11:30 on a school night to wake up my family with your drama, yelling and screaming. That’s when I knew enough was enough. I would not let your ugliness effect my children’s lives one minute longer.

As the years have passed so has my anger… maybe a little of my hurt too. Although to hear any of your excesses could probably light that flame.

Even though we don’t talk I have always prayed for you. I’ve prayed for blessings over your home, heart, job, all that touches your life. I wish for peace in your heart and a drama free life. I’m happy to hear you have found love and this one treats you well. I’m glad you’ve moved away from your sister who has always given you horrible advice because she is jealous of you. (I don’t believe someone can truly wish the best for you if they are jealous of you)

I do love you. I am happy for you. It seems you’re in a good place. Maybe you have finally found the peace I hoped for you. I don’t know if we will ever have that mother/daughter relationship. It seems we are both happy. Why rock the boat? But then again, you just never know.


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Saturday, July 23, 2011

Monas Milestones

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Friday, July 22, 2011

Warning, full on rant ahead….
I feel as if someone is stabbing my uterus and bleeding like it too.

This heat is keeping me inside so Gman is off to make the dreaded purchase. I also requested a KitKat and bag (yes a bag) of Dove Milk Chocolate Promises.

Last night he heard me laughing and said he was glad I was out of my bad mood. C thinks I’m making excuses to eat chocolate. I let the comments bounce off because there is just NO WAY the testosterone in the house can ever understand.

It’s not a bad mood. It’s a shitty situation. I’m cramping. I’m bleeding a fountain of blood. My migraine is now out of the box with zero narcotics to control it. I’m nauseous, bothered by light, sound, smells. And they want me to cook, clean, while being sweet, smiley and wearing white like in the commercials?

All I want is to sit in a cool, dark, quiet room; light my candles and watch some feel good movies. I just might play the Sims 2 (pc) too – it’s been a long time.

So please, give me a break, give me some quiet and get me my chocolate… please and thank you.


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Thursday, July 21, 2011

I get migraines.  Only someone living with pain can understand all that is packed in that small sentence. Life doesn’t stop for pain and sometimes it feels that you’re always hurting. Even when you don’t tell people (mostly because you’re sick of it); you still wear the face of great discomfort.

I have many migraine triggers. Heat, humidity, and change in weather make the top of that list. That really bites because of the excessive heat warning we are under this week. Not to mention the thunderstorms of these past 2 weeks.

Keeping away from all other triggers is my main goal. Then the morning brings me #2 on my list – Hello Little Miss Period, is it that time already! Uuggghhhh!!!

Here I am in my room, behind closed dark curtains, keeping calm, cool and hoping to keep the pain away.

More Migraine Triggers:
  • Alcohol – I can’t drink anymore
  • Noise – loud tv, repetitive thumping
  • Smells – usually only a big deal when I’m already on my way to misery but if I’ve hit items on the list it moves things along that much quicker
  • Missing Meals – usually missing one meal doesn’t do it but forgetting to eat two in a row, I’m in trouble
  • Stress
  • Too much caffeine – I had to give up coffee years ago… still, crave it
  • Not enough caffeine
  • Too much sleep
  • Not enough sleep
  • Skipping preventative meds (not a cure just stops the everyday pain)
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Wednesday, July 20, 2011

It’s been crazy HOT here in Michigan with dangerous heat and humidity. It’s been in the 90’s all week. We are actually under an excessive heat warning until 8PM on Friday night.

Today and tomorrow it is supposed to be the highest with the heat and humidity feeling as if it's 105-110, according to our weather guy.

Here's how we've kept oursleves cool in the past and present; most times with A/C one REALLY AWFUL time without.
  • Keep curtains and blinds closed so A/C doesn’t have to work as hard.
  • Drink lots of water – stay away from alcohol and sugar filled drinks.
  • Wear lightweight, light-colored, loose-fitting clothing. Boys were usually in swim trunks or underwear (sorry, boys).
  • Spray bottles - let the kids go to town.
  • Cooler shower or bath - even if it's just to jump in and cool off.
  • Popsicles were always on hand.
  • Make our own shakes and smoothies.
  • Slushes – pour juice in small freezer safe cup and put in freezer for 10-15 min. take spoon and break up ice making an easy slush.
  • Let the kids play in the water sprinklers, water balloons, water guns (sunscreen a must). Kept boys out of the sun between 10am and 4pm – this is when the sun causes the most damage.
  • Icepacks – I used to buy cheap sponges ($ Store is great), slightly squeeze water out and put in freezer safe plastic baggie. I didn’t use rubbing alcohol – kids put everything in their little mouths. When frozen, wrap in a wash cloth and urge them to put on head, back of neck and face. I also did the same with wash cloths (squeezing water out) and just throwing them in freezer without the baggie.
  • I used to keep 2 – ½ gallon water jugs on counter. 1 with ice water and 1 with iced tea. This way we weren’t constantly going into the fridge opening and closing the door.
  • Keep easy things on hand – jello, fruit, veggies.  No one likes to think about cooking (much less eating) when it’s hot and miserable so I wouldn't cook much.  Sub sandwiches are great too.
As the heat goes up my patience level goes down... quick.  So, I would always try to express all the things we had to be grateful for and not let the heat get the best of us.

Hoping it doesn't get the best of you.  Stay cool, my blogging friends.

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Tuesday, July 19, 2011

There will be times in your life that you may not want advice but you should get it - especially when making BIG moves (moving, marriage, career, major purchases, etc).

Lay down your pride, research and get advice. Get advice from friends. Bounce ideas off co-workers. Get online and research.

Seeking or getting opinions doesn’t mean you have to take it. It means you’re being smart, sorting out information and making the best decision for you.

A MUST go to for advice are your parents. Not that we know it all. However, more than anyone else on earth we have your best interest at heart. Our guidance does not have a hidden agenda. We only want the very best for you. The last thing we want for you is to make a huge mistake.

I know it’s hard for you to take advice from us sometimes but really it’s not about us seeing you as little boys or us not having any faith or confidence in your judgment. It’s about you being smart, getting suggestions from people who love you with all that we are.

Although, I’ve said it a thousand times, I thought maybe I’d leave this here for you as another mommy reminder.
*** This post is just another note to my boys. ***

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