I've known Gman for just over 20yrs. Some think it's just luck but our marriage is like many others. We've had our share of good times and bad. We've even covered sickness and health.
Gman is taking this set of tough times pretty bad. I see the stress on his face. I think it's starting to effect his health - the other day he mentioned feeling light headed. (he won't go to the doctor) He is usually the calm one. Now he seems grumpy and grouchy... bitchy even. I've told him we have so much to be grateful for...he's not going for it.
I've tried to do my part by not bitching about things we can't get. I've also sent out my resume. I've clipped coupons, bought generic and sale items. All purchases are necessity only.
Each evening, when I can catch him sitting still, I'll give him a massage... hands, feet, knees, head, back - sometimes one part, sometimes all. In some small way, I just hope to ease his stress... even if for a short time.He's my rock and it hurts me to see him this way. I tell him every day how much I love him. I wish there was more I could do.