Thursday, July 29, 2010

Raising Boys

I find being a mom of boys a HUGE responsibility.  No, I'm not knocking all the wonderful moms of girls.  I just happen to have boys so I'm writing what I know.

Read the paper, watch the news, most violent crimes are committed by men - women being the victims.  Most women have a man as a boss.  So raising boys to be respectful toward women is a MUST.  Teaching them how to be great men in society is what all moms of boys need to do.

Teaching starts from the get go:  not to hit or bite,  how to walk away from a fight, opening doors for women, no means no, respect, responsibility, on and on and on.  Teaching your little one doesn't start when they can talk or start school.  It starts from the first day they enter the world.  They should always know what you expect from them.

What challenges have you faced being a mom?  What is your favorite thing about being a mom?

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Nikki B. said...

fave thing about being a mom...i'd have to say it's something that i haven't actually experienced fully yet...my fave part is sharing with them everything i know, and everything i've learned...and watching them interact with the world. specifically, i look forward to seeing what kind of adults they become!!

challenges? just trying to keep my head above water in this game!!

sherri said...

I have to admit this.... I am sooo glad that I had a daughter (only one kiddo for me)! She was so easy to raise...she was respectful, kind, and easy to manage (could be because I work with the police) ha

I have 4 brothers...I was the only girl...and my very personal and most likely exaggerated opinion of boys is that they are evil! Just plain evil! LOL (totally said in jest)

Cori said...

Good for you for teaching your boys how to treat women when they are young. Wish more and more people did! Honestly though, it's the same with girls....In my opinion parents just need to be more aware and on top of their kids' behavior. Make the changes while the kids are young, their easier to mold then...the older they get the harder habits are to break!

Love reading your blog!

BlondieBlueEyes said...

I agree and I am doing my best. Some days I thing I am soaring and others I am sinking. I love being a mother, I just need to slow down and appreciate all the phases of growth.

RoseBelle said...

You brought up a very interesting point. Most crimes are committed by men. Morales and values start from the home. I try to instill kindness and responsibilities to my kids while they're still kids so they grow up to be good people.

I'm your newest follower!

Pam said...

Being a parent is the hardest and most important job I'll ever do.

Kimberly said...

oh boys! So much fun, so much work!!! I think giving up so much me time has been the biggest challenge. Doesn't that sound selfish...but seriously I feel like I give so much of myself to my family that I am often overwhelmed with having no time to just relax. But thankfully my boys make up for it in many ways. There is nothing like the love you get from your boys! :-) ~Kimberly

Kelly said...

Fave thing about being a mom, that's pretty easy, being called "mommy" and the little kiss and BIG hug that comes with it :)

S.I.F. said...

Can I just put in a request? While you're training (er, I mean "raising") those boys of yours, could you also teach them to:

1.) Call when they say they're going to call.
2.) Shut up and cuddle when the girl in their lives is having a bad day.
3.) Text message without a thousand spelling errors.
4.) Talk about their feelings instead of bottling them up.
5.) Buy flowers, just because.

Great Mona. Thanks! :)

~Thoughts Of A Working Mom~ said...

As a Mom of 2 boys, this was a great post to read! Thanks so much for sharing. It's given me a lot to think about!

Lydia said...

Hi, I love your reading your blog especially this one as I also have 2 boys of my own. Thanks for sharing this, more to add to my own list.

More Milestones said...

Nikki, I think most moms feel that way.
Sherri, I have met my share of evil boys.
Cori, thanks that's really sweet.

More Milestones said...

BlueEyes, I always say don't worry about the dishes, they'll be there tomorrow.

RoseBelle, you know it seems the right thing to teach our kids to be nice people. I wish all parents felt that way. Thanks for following.

Pam, it is the hardest job ever... but I love it. : )

More Milestones said...

Kimberly, boys are the best. If I could turn back time, I'd have at least one more.

Kelly, I never get tired of being called "Mom".

More Milestones said...

SIF, you got it! You know, I don't know what it is about that testosterone that doesn't let them talk about their feelings. They usually come around but dang! It takes long enough sometimes.

More Milestones said...

Jen & Lydia, I when our boys were little guys I used to always say, "Having 2 boys is like having 5 kids".

Kimberly said...

Hi Mona,

I just accepted my award today! Thank you so much!

~Kimberly

Karen Tapahe said...

I have two boys and no girls, so I get where you're coming from. My "baby" just turned 18 and I never imagined surviving until my boys became adults. We worked hard to raise them right and people tell us we did a great job even though our loving sons like to tell us otherwise. Only time will tell what kind of legacy we've passed on...

Twinsnsingles said...

I have 3 boys and 1 girl. I, too, realize the importance of raising MEN in this society.

My 8yo son got a compliment from his football coach. One of his teammates fell and Andy went over to see if he was OK. This meant Andy couldn't finish his drill right away. I was so proud of him and loved that the coach noticed too.

My favorite thing about being a mom is just having the opportunity to teach my kids about the world on a daily basis. The hardest thing is not getting enough breaks to recharge so I can be the best mom I can be. We're working on improving that.