Thursday, June 3, 2010

~ Love and Marriage ~

Next month Hubby and I will celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary.  Like all marriages, we have had our ups and downs.

Hubby is funny, caring, kind. He is my rock. He taught me what it feels like to be loved. He taught me how a real marriage works.  I love him so much and I tell him everyday. He makes me laugh and yes he can drive me BANANAS.

My parents divorced when I was seven but kept their on/off relationship going until I was almost 17. On/Off meant moving from one state to another and one school to another. I clearly did not know what it meant to be with someone through the good times and bad.

Don't get me wrong, we've had our share of ups and downs.  I think our glue is humor, patience and kindness.  We don't fight dirty.  We don't let the little things matter.  We make time each day to just be together.  Sometimes that's not until the very end of the day but it still counts.

Through the good times and bad, I've learned the following:
  1. A big, beautiful wedding does NOT equal a big beautiful marriage.
  2. There will be good times AND bad - that's just the way the universe works.
  3. Never talk over the bad times with unmarried friends - they will not give you good advice.
  4. It's not worth it to leave for someone else.  A year later there would be the same dirty socks in the corner and bills on the counter.
  5. As long as our marriage does not include drug/alcohol/physical/emotional abuse it is worth the work.
What are your marriage tips?

6 Friends Commented:

Hyacynth said...

First time here! So glad to have met you through the Bigger Picture Blogs Blog Frog community!

I feel the same way about my hubby; he's been so vital in teaching me how a marriage should work. {And he drives me bananas.}

Our number one marriage tip? Don't even utter the D. word. It's not used or alluded to in our marriage.

Happy anniversary!

More Milestones said...

Thanks for stopping by. Great to meet another happily married woman.

Ellen Marie "Mama" Pike said...

Very nice points. You are right, it is worth going through the good times and the bad times.

More Milestones said...

I have some friends & family that think I'm "lucky" and our marriage is "easy". NO. We've had our ups and downs just like everyone else. It's more hard work than luck.

thehubbydiaries said...

Great post!

Yes, we love them... and yes, they drive us crazy! As long as you can keep a sense of humor and learn to laugh with each other it makes it much easier to weather the storms!

Nags said...

Marriage is so much about balance in myriad ways - independence/togetherness,sharing/keeping to oneself etc. Marriage is a work in progress, always changing, shifting, trying to meet the needs of each spouse.A marriage is considered bad, when couples do not adjust and understand each other. So making the marriage life good or bad is in our hands.