Thursday, July 9, 2009

Milestones

The best thing I’ve ever done with my life is to be a wife and mother to our two boys. All the pretty pictures pass through my mind…the breastfeeding, crawling, walking, first day of school…. Then BOOM! Our oldest is walking up to the podium to give his valedictorian speech. AND BAM! Our youngest is “graduating” from 8th grade.

"M" (oldest) wanted to move out right after graduation. Lucky for me he is only 17 so I told him I would not allow him to leave until he was 18…pretty tricky huh? He will be 18 in September and I don’t know what he’ll be doing then. Truth be told I’m afraid to ask him. So instead I’ve been preparing myself for the time (whenever) he’ll be leaving home. Giving myself pep talks of how he’ll be ok, I’ll be ok, everything is ok.

"C" (14) will be a freshman and starting drivers training this fall. Just in time for us to do this high school thing all over again. I don’t know if my emotional state can handle another kid out on that road alone. If you haven’t experienced it yet, let me just tell you – your stomach will fall out of your butt each time your kid pulls out of the driveway.

Changes come and go whether we like them or not. Starting this blog is a way for me to cope with the empty nest that I DO NOT want to think about. I’m thinking if I can just focus my energy on other things I will find the woman I used to be before the husband and kids came along. She was ok. I kinda liked her. I just hope she’s not too pissed at me for not being able to hang out for so long.

Married mother of two teen boys meet Mona. She’s one kick ass chick.

26 Friends Commented:

Melissa said...

What a great introductory post! Love it! My daughter is 13, soon to be 14, and I'm dreading the driving years. I'm sure I'll be feeling the same way - that my stomach is falling out of my butt! :)

More Milestones said...

Thanks so much, Melissa. It's scary to let your babies in the big bad. What did our parents do without cell phones?
Make sure to stop by today's post and link your first blog post. I'd love to read it.

Kat from California said...

I have a love hate relationship with the cell phone. I love when I can call my daughter anytime, I hate when she and her friends text when they are suppose to be talking to me (like in the car).

My daughter is 12 going on 13 and still needs me but..now it's to driver her, buy her things, etc. Oh she still needs me emotionally but it's hidden under a facade of a bad ass preteen. lol

Firefly@fireflyblog.org said...

Beautiful post :) Visiting you from BlogFrog~First post :) and love it! I linked mine ;) as well!

the jilted ballerina said...

What a beautiful post... it even makes me tear up with empathy as my children are "at that age" as well.

More Milestones said...

Kat, they are so bad ass. {smiles} Even though they don't need toys or money from me anymore, they still come to me and that feels good.

More Milestones said...

Thanks for stopping by FireFly. Thanks for the compliment. I'll be reading your first post too.

More Milestones said...

Ballerina I still tear up too. I just can't imagine a time when we are not living in the same house. It just feels weird.

foolery said...

Great first post -- I linked mine as well (got here via BlogHer on FB). As a mother to two daughters, 7 and 9, I have a few years of plain drama before the sheer terror kicks in. Thanks for starting this!

-- Laurie @ Fooleryland

A New England Life said...

Your first post is certainly better than mine!

Oh how I can relate too, especially to the driving. Our daughter will be 17 in two weeks and teaching her to drive was very nerve wracking. Especially when she got a speeding ticket and rear-ended someone else right after she got her license!

This year we'll have a Freshman and Senior. Who knows what the senior will do after she graduates. College appears to be rather undetermined at this point.

Shadow Rider said...

Don't worry, you will survive! Our youngest just graduated HS and is off to college in the fall. Yes moving away, but that is their adventure! They get more interesting and fun every year.

Kelly said...

I love this idea of "first posts" getting back to what started it all. As mine is only four, so don't want to even think of the empty nest.....

Dawn said...

Letting our children go is so hard! I have one that just graduated college and one starting 4th grade ~ all the heartache & none of the benefits:)

Karen said...

My goodness, you have me flashing ahead a decade! I still don't understand how my kidlets grew past infancy. One second they are a bundle in my arms and the next, one is reading Harry Potter and the other is playing with her doll house. I'm glad we've got awhile to go before that milestone. :> Thanks for starting this round of visiting our beginnings! :>

bigguysmama said...

My oldest daughter moved out last year to start college. I can't even explain how painful that was although I knew it had to be done. My next one leaves in a year! My 2 boys are in Middle School and elementary still. It goes by so fast!

~Mimi

Terri said...

What a great bio of you and the site. It is so hard to let go when the kids grow up. I had to do it 3 times and am thankful they all live in the same state as me, sometimes I wish they were closer but their career's have taken them where they are now.

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Phases Of Me said...

I'm an empty-nester (for almost a year now). It's hard at first, but it gets a little easier. You don't stop worrying, or being mom, you just learn how to cope with it. Here if you need an understanding shoulder.

Stopping by from Say Hi Sunday and following on GFC! Have a great Sunday!

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Have a lovely Sunday.

ExJW33 said...

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TwistedMummy said...

Wow kids grow up so fast. My eldest is 12 and I'm already thinking about him in highschool and how he'll cope. Yikes.

Kristy said...

Glad I stumbled on your blog! I love this post! I'm not where you are with the kids yet (I still have 2 under the age of 5), but my oldest is starting kinder this fall and I am already dreading it and scared to death of the day he turns 16 and gets behind the wheel of a car....eekkk!! And I know that it will get here way too soon! I'm glad I found your blog! Can't wait to follow along!
xoxo,
Kristy

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